WHY???????????   


   


Depression!!!........I have it, some family members have it, friends have it......and I ask why.........WHY?
I mean.......ya go back two or three generations and it seems it virtually didn't exist......pretty much no mention of it.......the odd case here and there but that's it!.......WHY? 

Are we just not tough enough?.........are we just sooks?..........self indulgent?

I have known people over the years........good people, strong in character, great under pressure, big decision makers, knock down drag em up dust themselves off and carry on people.........who suddenly.........hit the wall, break down, can't make a decision, can't process information. They sleep, cry, get angry, sleep, cry, sleep, don't want to communicate, can't communicate!......WHY?

They don't know why.........we don't know why. Is it; P.T.S.D.?.........PMS?.........ADHD?...........ABCD?......whatever. They got all sorts of names now days. All we know..........all I know is that it happens to the best of us..........and it sucks........big time!
Hang on!..........maybe it's from what we eat?......what we drink?........what happened to us?.......... anger?.....fear?........guilt?..........working too hard?...........working too much?..........lack of forgiveness?............needing forgiveness?......I DON"T KNOW!

All I know is this.........It's REAL!

I made the unfair judgements when I was young............."just get over it will ya"......."take a few deep breaths, you'll be right"..............."stop being a sook". I may not of said it out loud but I thought it many times.

I DON'T ANY MORE!!!!!!

We can no more tell someone to get over depression than we can tell someone with a freshly broken leg to get that cast off and run a sprint!

Why am I ranting on about this?............Just to vent mainly..........some of the people in my life who I am very close to, and have much love for, are suffering.............and I can't help........I can't fix it for them..........I can't even fix myself for crying out loud.

So........what can we do?
Don't go through it alone!.........Seek medical advice from a qualified professional you can trust.
Share with your spouse, a close friend or two, someone who won't judge you but will be there for you, someone who will love you unconditionally. Sometimes, just to be able to share with someone can be a help. Sometimes you won't be able to share with your words......... because.......you just can't........... But having someone physically beside you can be a great help.

and.......... DO NOT JUDGE OR CRITICISE YOURSELF!!!

The simple fact is.........that people get depressed............and the best way to help is to LOVE!

End of Rant!

NB. Being a Christian, I also spend much time in prayer, and trust God to look after me, and those close to me. I don't know why He lets us go through these trials.........but I don't need to, because I trust that He has our best interests at heart!

Loss

There is a song that has the following line;  "Don't it always seem to go, that ya don't know what ya got till it's gone" and for where I am, at this time, it fits well.

I have a mate.........a good mate.........a best mate! For the past thirteen years we have spent much time together, getting to know each other, getting closer, understanding each other, being there for each other and........I suppose.......loving each other.

I don't think I have ever taken him for granted, but it has always been good to know he was there for me.........and I for him. We have prayed together, camped together, fished together, worked on cars & bikes together, rode together, shared our families, laughed together.............and cried together.

Well.........he's moving away!..........A long way away...........Far enough away to make it hard to go and visit him, and just as hard for him to visit me.

Later today, I go........with his family.......to say goodbye. To watch his plane take off and disappear into the vast expanse of sky, getting smaller and smaller until I can't see it anymore.

I will not cry (that is an out and out lie). I will miss my friend........my brother.........and a void will appear in my life. The period of time we spent together each week will be replaced with..........with what?............I don't really know.

Time for me to stop being a sook and share a photo of the two of us taken at his farewell.